"Love Them Both"
I have been working with a couple of maternity homes out here in California that, indeed, like my sign says "Love them both." One is a home for women, each of whom has chosen to place their child with a loving, adoptive family. (Yes, that's Lamb of God!) The other takes in women also in unplanned pregnancy situations and may also take in other children the women have or will find a place for them to be together. Both are operated by amazing people who love unconditionally and will do so much to accompany a woman through pregnancy, delivery, and beyond. There are also many pregnancy resource centers here that want to support women and the babies they carry.
While praying for the women and the babies, we were actually steps away from a Culture of Life Family Services clinic that is willing and able to assist and support women in unplanned/crisis pregnancies. These women will never feel so loved, I'm willing to wager. And, rather than feeling abandoned or judged they will find comfort and support in these homes and centers. The people I've met who are involved in the 'womb to tomb' life movement are truly walking the walk right along side women in need, and their babies, as well.
I had not known nor understood what an incredible group of people are working to enhance the quality of life and to ensure the dignity of women and their unborn babies. I don't do much at all in this arena beyond office work and phone calls. Since I got involved out here, though, I am humbled by the generosity and compassion I've witnessed and it makes me grateful that I got involved with the culture of life. The individuals I've seen in action out here are amazing.
And this is not unique to Southern California. Let us pray and perhaps financially and/or practically (through volunteering) support these amazing agencies and maternity homes. In so doing, you'll truly be healing the women and the babies they carry who need compassionate care. I just think more people need to know about these options. It can make a real, positive difference.
Helping Our Kids
Yes, as the song below asserts, Moms matter. You betchya. And so do Dads. But this song is about our moms. And it's beautiful. Matthew West sings a lot about every day people and every day life. I love his songs, and his messages. So simple, direct, and just beautiful.
Watch the video I've shared below. Mr. West makes a great point about the vital influence moms have on their children. In this case, it's all blessedly positive, though we can agree that's not always the case.
From my Christian perspective, and just my living a life as a female for almost 60 years and as a mother, families need to love and support all children. Yes, teens are still children, especially middle schoolers. Moms and Dads need to remember that love does not always mean a "yes" to our children's wants or demands. A "not now, child" response, followed by helping our children to get through tough periods in their young lives and its many challenges, is a great way to support our offspring. Our job is to let them grow up. And sometimes we can't fix the problems, but we can always listen and we can always love.
I hope we can all agree that children need responsible adults to support them through times of struggle. But we won't always be able to 'kiss is and make it better.' We can, though, be examples of unconditional love and compassion.
We can't allow our culture or others to sideline loving parents and their very crucial role in the healthy development of children. I maintain along with many others, that families are foundational to American life. They are foundational to anyone's life. Parents can and, I think, should help their children figure out who they are becoming. Gentle guidance, giving options, showing patience, being examples of patience and forgiveness, all these things help our little ones as they grow up.
If you read me with any regularity my conclusion will not surprise you. God is conspicuously missing from too many families and from the lives of too many people. Praying for our kids is essential, too. Please watch and listen with open minds and hearts. God is where our hope comes from. Our children need to know that. Every human needs to know. Let us pray.
* "Do little things with great love." - St. Terese of Lisieux
"Imagine the impact that we individuals could make by a simple choice. Where once we had chosen not to love, we now choose to love." - Mark Mossa, SJ
My name is Lynda. I am an author and blogger who volunteers at Lamb of God Maternity Home. I hope to share some thoughts with you here, as well as some of my other entries from my personal blog, Drowning in Lemonade.
My name is Laura, and I am the Program Director at the home. I also respond to all the crisis phone calls that come into our office or on the crisis hotline which is monitored 24/7.